A failed diplomat~~~

Assalamualaikum wbt~~~

hhuhuhu..hari ini saya mengklasifikasikan diri sy sebagai seorang diplomat yg gagal..mmg x leh nk jadik duta laa..

alkisahnyer pg td i went immigration center to renew my garda card..there was people waiting on the bench in accordance to their arrival, but the seats were fully occupied..so i made a new line by standing..so bila office dah bukak, i gave way to all yg duduk n dtg awal td laa kan..then x perasan ada sorang pakcik nih whether dia dalam golongan mereka yg duduk atau berdiri di belakang..

then pakcik tuh beratur dlm line yg first tuh as the last person meaning infront of me laa kan..then tetiba ada brother nih x puas ati..he was asking me to jump the line because he said that pakcik infront of me was cheating sbb dia potong cue..and he sounded like angry..dia kata if i dont want to, then he will cut the que and go to the kaunter before that pak cik..then i was like mad myself..i said, you have to settle it with the man himself..napa nk marah2 aku..ckp laa ngan pakcik tuh supaya jgn potong line..then terjadi lah pertegangan urat sket kan..i repeated myself a few times..and i asked pak cik depan tuh whether dia dtg awal ker lambat and all..the situation was quick and intense and i was emotional..i was put in dilemma whether to allow that pakcik to be infront of me, or he have to go back to join the q or to allow that brother td to cut the que..dilemma betol..the brother was claiming it was his right and the pakcik was cutting the q, the pakcik plak kta its his right jugak..arghh konpius..and i dont know what to do..

so i just allowed that pakcik to remain where he was, and so the brother cut the line...kak mas siti aisyah was behind me, and she said if it was her, she will ask that pakcik to go to the back and not allow the brother to cut the q..actually i was kinda of like emotional x pasal2, sbb i thought that bro was ruining my day..naper dia perlu marah2 aku kan..sebenarnyer dia x marah pun, he was just raising up his voice and bernada serius..i'm kinda like having a protective mechanism, bila org marah aku i will like retaliate cause i'm not doing anything wrong pun..so napa nk marah kan..brother tuh dah laa siap ckp kt kak mas, "you friend doesnt seems to understand english..he anwsers question with question.."...i was like hello~~~~~...wuteva forever..really actually i was blinded by anger..lupa hadith nabi dalam hadith 40..La Taghdob...

hadith penuh seperti berikut :

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَجُلاً قَالَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: أَوْصِنِي، قَالَ : لاَ تَغْضَبْ فَرَدَّدَ مِرَاراً، قَالَ: لاَ تَغْضَبْ
[رواه البخاري]

Terjemah hadits / ترجمة الحديث :
Dari Abu Hurairah radhiallahuanhu sesungguhnya seseorang bertanya kepada Rasulullah sholallohu ‘alaihi wa sallam : (Ya Rasulullah) nasihatilah saya. Beliau bersabda : Jangan kamu marah. Beliau menanyakan hal itu berkali-kali. Maka beliau bersabda : Jangan engkau marah.
(Riwayat Bukhori )

sbb marah will blind our judgement..that what happened to me..nafsu marah akan menyebabkan keputusan kita berlandaskan nafsu marah tuh and its not good..hohoho..a lesson learnt for today..but really on the way back i was thinking whether my decision was a correct one or not..mcm mana nk jadik leader, even small problem like that i cannot solve dengan calm and diplomasi..really it's only a small incidence..but the underlying cause yg sebenar adalah isu hak...masing2 menuntut hak dia..and what happened if u become a leader someday, and org bawahan ko are having conflict of rights..clashes of right..how do you protect the right of your subordinate without violating others rights..hoohohoho..dilemma..bila suma org nk tuntut hak derang dan hak-hak mereka bercanggah antara satu sama lain..how u decide of what to do..mcm nnti bila anda jadik bapak..seorang anak anda menuntut hak dia, tetapi and juga perlu jaga hak seorang anak lg yg bertentang dgn hak anak yg seorang td..mcmn nak wat keputusan..???

the reason why i gave way to that pakcik is that

1. if he were to be sent to the back, and surely he gonna have to wait very long...compared to if the brother potong line, than, org2 yg sepatutnya depan brother garang tuh kena bertambah masa menunggu mereka sekurang2 nya 7 minit..tp kalo pakcik tuh kener beratur balek kt belakng like 1 hour of his time..compared to 7 minit time of 5@6 people..so i thought it wud be better to allow that pakcik to remain where he was, and the brother to potong line

2. terbaca dlm buku 7 habits tuh about win-win...tp x reti nk apply..dont know whether the decision was a win2..its a win2 for those involved, aku pakcik tuh dan brother tuh..sbb masing2 puas hati..pak cik tuh pun ckp suh brother tuh gi dulu..and aku x kesah sgt pun..so i guess its a win2..but really it was a lose utk org2 yg beratur belakang aku..sian derang yg x bersalah tetiba terpaksa menunggu 10 minit lg sbb brother tuh ptootng line derang..

2. terlupa nk ckp kt brother tuh, kalo dia rasa pak cik tuh mencuri hak dia, dan dia nak potong line org lain pulak, then dia dah curik hak 5@6 org lain didepan dia..dia sebenarnya sama ja mcm pak cik tuh kalo pakcik tuh potong line..

actually what i cud have done really is simple..tanye org yg depan pak cik tuh whether pak cik tuh sebenarnyer betol ker belakang dia..sbb i was angry, i cud not even come to think of the simple things..i cud have done better if i was not angry.. i cud have handled the situation calmly and with maturity...so moral of the story jgn marah..bertenang..heheh..